Personal Stories

Sam, Age 18, Transman

Can you imagine for a moment that if you are a guy there are only public women’s washrooms and only public men’s washrooms if you are a girl? Can you imagine what it would be like to be out in the world and have to go, but have nowhere to do it? What would you do? Where would you turn? If you went into one, people would call you out and tell you that you were in the wrong room, that you don’t belong here. Would you be embarrassed and turn to leave or would you hold your head high and suffer the consequences?

That is my life. Every day, there is no washroom for those who don’t quite fit into a category of MALE or FEMALE. Everyday tasks like going to the washroom are tough. Most stay out until they have to go and rush home in fear of being called out. In my case I’m not passing right now, although I am out. I am living my life as a butch lesbian.

Although we have come a long way in terms of gay rights, there is still a long way to go for trans rights. We don’t have the support or the information as heavily as LGB people do. It’s tough, and the reason I am writing this is to not only make sure that people hear it, but to allow people to think about it. Think about how it would feel to be neither fish nor fowl. Just think, that’s all I ask.